![]() ![]() Rather it has waxed or waned with the different lovers I’ve had. My libido hasn’t diminished as I’ve got older. I don’t think age has anything to do with it. I’m all about lots of stamina and very short recovery periods. I’ve never wanted to be married, never wanted children, and I’m not looking for a relationship, so I date younger men, usually in their twenties, which works perfectly. – Carolyn, 65, San Francisco Women in their 50s – Linda, 66, New Yorkįar from dwindling, my sex drive has surged since menopause. I recently fell in love with a man who is 73 and I’m having the best sex of my life and am multi-orgasmic for the first time. I had zero sex drive until my gyno prescribed testosterone cream. I’ve had loads of great sex in my life, but I don’t need it all the time, and I’m glad I don’t need it now when it would be harder to find. I feel that I’m doing what’s important to me. My sex-drive is considerably lower – what a relief! No more chasing rainbows that turn into hell-holes. The hardest part is getting used to what I see in the mirror, and watching people react with revulsion to my ageing face. Such an amazing world to discover, so little time. I’ve recently, at age 60, completed a BSc in Computer Science and now work as a software engineer. I look back with some regret at the years I wasted on men. My lack of sex drive has been enormously liberating. I wasted so much of my life being obsessed with men. I feel like I was trapped by my enthusiastic response to men my whole life. ![]() My libido is flourishing, thank you very much! – Trisha, 61, UK Now I’ve met a lovely man (I’m over 60), and sex is better and more frequent than it ever was. Instead of relaxing and understanding my body – and my responses to men – I went for ‘OK’ instead of waiting for ‘spectacular’. They do say that sex is mostly in the head I spent 40 years worrying about my ‘failure’ to get it right. ‘Sex toys are my best friends,’ says Carolyn, 65, of San Francisco, California. – Carole, 70, Illinois Women in their 60s Dwindling libido can assuage somewhat the grief of persistent loneliness. Outliving my vitality has not made me feel happy, free or wise. It hasn’t changed at all! But reliable and “performative” partners are difficult to find! Pity the prejudices of a mature woman dating a (much) younger male! It seems that the other way around is fine! – Rajani, 70, Portugalįor me, diminished libido is yet another manifestation that my time has past. That is the problem as middle-aged men go for women in their 40s: women in their 70’s don’t stand a chance! – Ann, 70, US I feel more in tune with men at least 10 years younger than myself. Sex is not complicated when no other humans are involved – and far less risk. ![]() A date with my vibrator is at my convenience, it’s exhilarating, and it’s reliably great exercise. Sex with my Hitachi is more rewarding, less complicated and not nearly as exhausting. Sex with a person can be complicated and is hard work and, in my experience, rarely worth the energy. Zero interest in locating a sex partner is very liberating. Women in their 70s Women in their 60s Women in their 50s Women in their 40s Women in their 30s Women in their 70s ![]()
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